The "Help a quiller with their Love Life" Thread

[jabbernaut]

Since I don't have any homework to request assistance with, I figure you can all help me out with something else that has me stumped.

Women and I ... just what is the deal?

Anyone?


(and no, this isn't meant in all seriousness, and it's actually a ploy to get some discussion going on relationships in general... so have fun)

[Alexia]

Aw! Gimme a HUG!

*gives crushy loving hugs*

As for relationships...

*breaks out into a sweat*

Well, they seem kinda, uh, neat... and, uh...

*screams, flails arms and flees*

[Anita Blake]

~stands solidly against relationships ATM~

~punches jabb in the arm and calls him buddy~

[LaughingTurtle]

~punches jabb in the other arm~

I hear yah man....

Though the first step is eliminating the current boyfriend...

[wiggin]

I've just devised a method for snaring women. It involves a combination of:

1) My innate charm.
2) My abilities to kick ass on classwork.
3) My stunning good looks.
4) My amazing culinary skills.

Well, in reality, only 2 and 4. So ask women over for dinner, make something impressive, flex some muscles (preferably the one between your ears), and pray.

Ender

[~KA3AK~]

Jabb, it's not you, it's them. Women. Can't live with them, can't have a normal sex life without them.

Oh, and wiggster, has that ever worked? Cause my experience tells me one thing - be a jackass (preferably a drunk one).

[wiggin]

We'll see. I'm going to attempt it on a certain lady with awesome eyes tomorrow night, I hope.

[~KA3AK~]

Well, i wish you luck, but I have to warn you, you are more likely to score if you follow my advice.

[night faerie]

dont listen to him, wigg. I've always been a sucker for a little mystery and a lot of mindpower. Be witty, be intelligent, be... conversationalist. Very important to keep interesting conversation going. Be sure you've got at least 3 topics to turn to if things begin to get quiet. They dont have to be anything big, just little "Did you know..." types of things. Good Luck! ~crosses fingers~

[wiggin]

Many thanks, nf. And K3, much as your advice might be good, I'm afraid it's against my constitution to act like a jackass to a lady.

And I always have dozens of things flitting around my head. Conversation isn't the trouble - but I really should try to steer them to things that she's likely to be interested in. Problem is, I *don't* want this to be a date or anything yet, so getting her (and only her) to my place will be semi-tricky.

[Dregs]

Ah, wiggs, getting a girl ALONE at your place technically is a date. My advice does involve booze, but just enough so that one is relaxed.

1) Don't care whether you "score": whatever happens happens. Chicks will dig that confident devil may care attitude.

2) Be friendly but not forward. Fine line I know, but find it and walk it. Overt flirting annoys people more than anything else. Makes you look desperate. Subtle flirting (eye contact, look away, eye contact, smile) is good though.

3) Be scruffy. You can always scrub up, but if you are a pretty boy to begin with, any attempts to slum down will make you look like you're having a mid life crisis.

Dregs ( the Lurve God)

[wiggin]

Well, she's a good friend already, so it wouldn't be amiss for me to have her over. Honest.

1) I'm most certainly not planning to "score", so that's not an issue.

2) Heh. I'll try.

3) Scruffy? Will it help that I'm a lazy shaver? 'course, no one can see my stubble, it being so light... We'll both be icky and sweaty, though... playing basketball with some friends beforehand...

[Dregs]

Good work Grasshopper. I see great things ahead for you. Make sure you waft that manly sweaty smell at her though, its packed full of pheromones.

[jabbernaut]

Hmm, some good tidbits being offered here... Thanks, people hehe

A few points though:

1. Neither am I looking to "score"
2. Alcohol cannot be a factor, at least not myself drinking it
3. It would only be by total accident or with a great deal of effort that I would make myself act like a jackass toward a woman
4. I haven't much experience when it comes to cooking hehe

And here's a question I've found myself often wondering...

I sometimes get the impression from girls I know that a kind word, an opened door, a bit of pampering, etc. is unwelcomed, or in some cases even annoying. And this is even when I'm not flirting, just offering courtesy and good manners. So, at what point does the favorable attention of a gentleman become bothersome?

Perhaps it's that fine line that Dregs alluded to.

[wiggin]

If you consistently establish yourself as a "Gentleman", ie someone who always is solicitous and polite (though never pushy) to the ladies, then it's really not much of a problem. People will realize it's just your habit/nature, and deal with it.